Emotionally Focused Therapy, or EFT, is a structured approach to couples therapy formulated in the 1980s by Dr. Sue Johnson. Research has shown EFT to be more effective than other couples therapies. Studies have found that 70% to75 % of couples move from distress to recovery and 90% show significant improvement.
The goals of EFT are to expand and re-organize key emotional responses that will allow couples to feel more connected and securely attached to one another. This process allows new and positive cycles of interaction and creates a secure bond between partners. A positive "dance" replaces the negative interactive cycles that couples often find themselves in. The positive cycles become reinforced and create permanent change. The relationship becomes a safe haven and a healing environment for both partners. This therapy works best if both partners are committed to the relationship and committed to the therapeutic process. Weekly sessions are recommended, but every other week sessions can be effective as well.
To learn more about this process, I refer you to the books by Dr. Sue Johnson entitiled "Hold Me Tight" and "Love Sense". You can also research the ICEEFT website, the official website of EFT or you can search the SACDEFT website for local therapists trained in EFT. Additionally, Dr. Johnson has done numerous videos, some of which have found their way onto YouTube. .